9.30.2015

My Mom Taught Me How To Be Sexy


As I was sweeping and mopping the floors this morning it hit me - this is what sexy is all about. And then I started thinking about my mom and how she is the root of what I know to be sexy in my life [these sweeping sessions are deep I tell you]. Sexy isn't what media shoves down our throat - barely there clothing, fake eye lashes and tiny little bodies everywhere..it's real woman doing real things. It's not just about our bodies, it's about our brains. It's not about how much we have, it's about how hard we worked to get it. It's about strength, generosity and so much more than the latest filtered selfie.

As my mom turns 60 tomorrow I wanted to reflect on this great woman and how she taught me to be the sexiest woman that I can be...all by doing the things I watched [and continue to watch] her do. So here we have it, sexiness according to the life of a 60 year old.


1. You want it - you work for it. Laziness is not sexy my friends, hard work is. Because she learned from an early age that nothing comes for free [a realization that our generation is struggling with big time] she worked hard to provide a life for her family that she would be proud of. My mom didn't just teach for 35 years, she was also the high school athletic director when us girls were young, coached many of our sports teams, kept her yard one of the best on the block by mowing and pulling all of the weeds herself, and the list goes on and on. Since being retired for 5 years I asked the other day if she has taken a nap yet - she hasn't. Don't count on handouts, be the cause of your success. 

2. A clean house is a happy house. Growing up our house was pretty much always spotless, everything had its place, our windows were washed several times a week [the woman is a window Nazi] and we never had to feel like we were living in chaos thanks to her. Because of this, I have grown to admire and appreciate the hard work that it takes to keep a house clean. It keeps me sane - it keeps my husband sane. Get those mops out ladies, you're men will take note ;) 

3. Sweat, don't glisten. For the past 29 years of my life, I can't remember a day that my mom didn't get at least a 30 minute workout in which is both awesome and insane. Every morning she would be dripping sweat from a hard workout, even when we were on vacation. Watching her dedication to her health has inspired me to try to be fit and strong. Unfortunately she succeeds way more at this than I, however I am so grateful she taught me to not just strive to be skinny but to be strong. 

4. Be financially smart. I love when women don't just leave it to their significant other to take care of the checking account. My mom has always had a strong sense of their financials, set goals to become debt free [something my parents became at age 28, what?!], helps make investment decisions and so on. Watching this growing up made me keenly aware of how important it is to have a handle on your money and how to save [and spend it] wisely. A financially responsible woman - super sexy. 

5. Love beyond yourself. My mom has never skipped a beat when it comes to being there for her family and friends. Constantly she is giving of herself to those of us who demand her time, energy, focus, etc. I witnessed this growing up, continue to notice it as we get older with both us and her little grandchildren and now with her own parents as they age. When you have somebody in your life who would drop everything for you in an instant, you know you are lucky. Be that person for somebody else.


6. Open up your world by going out and seeing the world. My mom is the queen of traveling and I couldn't be more fortunate that she has instilled a love of adventure in myself. There is nothing better than experiencing new sights, new sounds, new experiences, meeting new people, eating different food, etc. A well traveled woman is something to be admired - don't stay in your own little box, get out and experience life. 

7. Have fun but keep it classy. My parents are fun - like really fun. I always say they are way cooler than Shawn and I are and have way more social plans than we could ever dream of having. My mom knows how to have a good time but she also knows how to keep things in control. A glass of wine every day? Absolutely. A bottle of wine hourly? No thanks. In the words of my father - "everything in moderation". I am grateful for this lesson as it's allowed me to remember every night of fun I've ever had.

8. Quitting is easy, choose the hard. My mom taught high school for a long [long] time and it wasn't always easy or fun - however, she kept at it because it was a commitment that she had made. I have never watched my mom quit something [other than her diet coke addiction]. While there is something to be said about changing your situation there is also something to be said about sticking something out. 

9. Respect your elders [and your youngers]. My parents didn't just love us as children, they respected and trusted us. Because my sister and I felt that respect and trust, we wanted to respect them right back. Respecting and obeying your elders [whether it be parents, bosses, etc] is a very attractive quality in a human and something we should always be mindful of. Thank you mom for showing me exactly what it means to respect those in her life, both younger and older. This is one of the greatest things you have ever taught.

10. Value your voice and use it wisely. In other words, don't be a pansy who sits on the sidelines and allows others to belittle you or walk all over you. If you have an opinion, speak it with love. If you don't agree with somebody, explain why with grace. We were given a brain, ears, eyes, and a mouth for a reason - use them but use them wisely. Stand your ground while allowing others to stand theirs.

11. When all else fails, dye your hair - get your nails done - throw on some great fitting jeans and dive head first into some much needed retail therapy. 

Happy birthday mom - thank you for being the epitome of sexy and for teaching Chelsea and I how to be strong and happy women. You are the most incredible mother and our family couldn't be luckier to have you leading us alongside dad. Love you so much - sixty has never looked better.  Now go get a little crazy and celebrate all that you are, you deserve it.

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13 comments:

  1. This is a GREAT post and I will be taking note of all these steps! Seriously!! Happy birthday to your momma!

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  2. Wow - that's a pretty amazing woman and some solid lessons! Great post!!

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  3. What a beautiful tribute to your mom. Happy 60th birthday to Erin's mama!

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  4. Sweat, don't glisten is an amazing one! My instructor gave me a high five after class yesterday for having the biggest sweat drops in bootcamp. #crushit Oh, and happy birthday to your mom!

    xx Kelly
    Sparkles and Shoes

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  5. These are great tips and this is a beautiful tribute to your mom!

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  6. I love this beautiful post, such a lovely tribute to your mum. I truly hope my own daughter is learning these same things from me!

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  7. Love, love, LOVE this list! This is the type of sexy woman I strive to be every day.

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  8. I love this! Such a sweet tribute to your mom! I totally agree that sexy is all about what's in your brain, not on your body!

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  9. Wow - what a great post! Happy Birthday to your mom!

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  10. Super duper tribute to REAL sexy women! I'm trying to pass these very same things on to my daughter! Happy Birthday to your beautiful mom! Great post!

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  11. oh my goodness, this is such a great post! your mom sounds like a wonderful person and i need to channel the cleanliness thing...it sounds so nice to not be surrounded by chaos :) happy birthday to her!

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  12. Thank you for this post Erin. It has inspired me. I am embarassed to say this but I actually quit reading your blog for a while because I was jealous. I felt like all the things I wanted you had, and it just reminded me of how the choices I was making (financial irresponsibility, laziness, skipping workouts) were the reasons I didn't have the things I wanted. So I am sorry, because that was not kind of me. But after reading this post I am inspired again. Happy 60th to your mom & I hope you keep blogging until you're 60 because I would just love to see a post about how you would celebrate a milestone like that! :) [PS: I hope this didn't come across mean - totally NOT how I am intending it to :)]

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  13. Cool the close relationship you have with your mom. I think much of it comes down to #9. She respected and trusted you, and you returned the respect and trust.

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