What Doesn't Kill You Only Makes You Stronger (And Have More Grey Hair)

"Let it define you, let it destroy you, or let it strengthen you" 

It's funny how quickly your perspective on strength changes as you get older. Growing up, strength was only a measure of what I could do physically [which if we are being real, wasn't a heck of a whole lot]. It was somewhere in my teen years that strength became less and less of a physical attribute, but more of a mental/emotional character trait. It wasn't until real [read also: hard] life experiences started happening that I learned what it truly meant to be strong. For me, strength was proved to me when I watched my husband lose his father unexpectedly his senior year of high school. Every time I type those words my eyes fill up with tears. Here was this 18 year old boy who lost everything he knew in a matter of minutes. What I have realized is that you learn a whole lot about yourself when you are unsure of everything. All of those cliche sayings I had always heard about how you can't get to the top until you are at the bottom, you can't be healed until you have been broken, etc...all of those rang true. When faced with situations you never thought you would find yourself in you can allow it to do any of the above--define, destroy, or strengthen you. I am so thankful Shawn chose strengthen. He is a completely different person than he was the day before his dad passed away and while it was a horrible situation, he has made it the very best possible. I love that I walk alongside a person who has shown strength at times when I would be weak. A person who has chosen to remain positive when the easier option would be to be negative, and a person who can say "it will all be okay" and know genuinely that it will be. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger...so grateful for the opportunities that we are given to learn more about ourselves and show others that we can do hard things together. 

All of this to say--I love this shirt above but I love the meaning behind it more. You most likely all know my friend Ashley from The Shine Project by now [if you don't, feel free to check out this post for an awesome drawing her son made me last time we were out in Arizona and visited them...I promise you will laugh] but she is up to more good again. They recently launched a 7 week tee campaign with the help of their student employees. You can read more about their mission here. Rodrigo is the fine young gentleman who chose my shirt's quote and here is what he has to say about it. 

"My name is Rodrigo and I am a 21 year old, first generation college student. I have been working for The Shine Project since they launched two years ago, and the scholarship money has helped me pay my way through college. Everyone faces those insurmountable struggles that approach you throughout life.  There are decisions that have to be made with enough thought or just at an instant moment.  There's family you let go in order to pursue your driven triumph, and there's your heart you risk for someone not to break. There's those long years of schooling you accomplish to settle your future.  All the little things that happen in between can balance the good and the bad through your journey for your own story. You can either let life define you, destroy you, or let it strengthen you."

A portion of this weeks shirt sales will go to Rodrigo's college scholarship fund. 



Well The Good News Is....

I've got some good news and some not so good news. 

Lets start with the bad. I didn't take a single photo on my real camera this weekend. On the blogging scale of horrible (10 being how dare you) this is a 14. I'm a little bit kicking myself in the shins and a little bit I could care less. Mostly kicking myself in the shins though. 

The good news is that I had a great weekend and most definitely one that should have been documented. It ranged from attending a concert, getting a pedicure, running in my first ever color run, eating lunch with an old friend of mine, taking several fireball shots, sleeping on a boat for a good majority of my Sunday, and all of that other fun stuff. Oh and hey--my husband successfully turned 30 which has me all "omg we are so old" because if you think about it, 30 is half way to 60 and 60 is well over half way to dead. Basically we are screwed. Anyhow, happy birthday husband of mine. I am so glad that you lived through the Jimmy Buffet concert you went to. Every year I give you about a 70/30 survival rate, but every year you come out alive like a boss. Proud of you. Back to the point at hand, I do have a few iPhone pics so I suppose those will have to do for now. Please excuse my mistake. I promise it will never ever happen again--until this coming weekend when I forget to get my camera out of my purse yet again. 

Turns out I've got some other good news (lets face it--it's Monday..we need all of the happy we can get right now). You see, some sweet friends of mine got together and decided they should give one of you an awesome prize consisting of PayPal cash, free clothing, free jewelry, free blog planning kits, and all sorts of other insane things you never knew you absolutely need. Be sure to check out these awesome peeps/shops and then get yourself entered. 

Happy shortened work week party people. USA! USA! USA! 

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Remind Me To Come Back With A Topic Next Time....

Aside from driving 30 miles in the completely wrong direction this afternoon [don't worry, I had a personal pan pizza to keep me company] and talking to my sister on the phone while she is yelling at my niece to stop peeing in the front yard, it's been a pretty normal day around here ;) Sometimes I swear I would have the most entertaining {ie: not normal} reality show out there. Sure I may not have a gazillion children running around and I may be taller than 2 feet, but I know how to spend my afternoons smoking candy cigarettes and running into walls constantly on accident. What is more entertaining than watching somebody else hurt themselves on accident? Nothing, that's what.

I'm not really sure where I was going with this blog post other than to say I haven't had any idea where I have been going with any blog posts recently. To put things lightly, blogging has been the furthest thing on my mind. In fact, anytime I try to think of a half decent topic I wind up with a headache which makes me brew a cup of coffee which then makes me way too jumpy to sit still for a solid 10 minutes to pump a post out.. 

And then I just said pump a post out. 

Regardless here I am. Pumping. Posts, not my breasts just for clarification purposes.

Speaking of becoming a human cow, I had a long text session with myself and other ladies who have produced children of their own. All that I took from it was that your boobs get saggy, it hurts a lot after said child comes out, and you are tired 24/7. So while that sounds awesome I think I am going to try to stay unpregnated for at least one more month of my life.

Have I mentioned that I bought candy cigarettes yet today? #winning

Changes [exciting] ones are happening over here and I can't wait to share them with you. Stay tuned for all of that.

Until then, I'm off to go spend the weekend celebrating my husband's 30th birthday while he is gallivanting around Chicago with his guy friends and I am sitting in a bubble bath with a glass of wine bigger than my face. God bless birthdays.

Oh ps. If anybody has ideas on what to get your husband for his 30th birthday, suggestions would be more than appreciated. Remind me to ask more than 24 hours in advance next year. K thanks bye. 



28 Secrets Of Growing Up

Sharing one of my favorites with you today--I am sure you already know her, but if not, you are in for a treat. I loved every single one of her secrets of growing up and assumed you would too so here we go. Without further ado....

Hi!  My name is Bonnie and I have a blog where I write whatever strikes my fancy.  I'm a high school English teacher by day, and by night I take to the interwebs to unleash on all of you the absolute insanity that is working with 200+ seventeen year olds.  I'm married to a fine ginger man with whom I am expecting our first ginger child in a month.  (At least I hope it's his!  Bad joke?)  Some of  the posts I have most enjoyed writing are about (in no particular order) stupid questions my students asklove in a snowstorm, making fun of how to articles, losing my dadcommon misunderstandings about Mormons and lessons I learned from my lady doctor.  You know, love, death and gynos- what else could you ask for from a blog?

This is a picture of me and some dude.  Just kidding.  It's my husband.  I was going to post a picture of just me but I figured if I showed you all a pic of a ginger with his shirt off you would be hooked for life, am I right or am I right?!?

I've been feeling quite grown up lately.  On Monday I will turn 28 and within the next month or so I am going to experience a buttload of life's biggest "grown up" changes.  My husband is settling into a big boy career, we are closing on and moving into our first home, oh, and of course there's the impending ginger baby which promises to rock our lives in every way possible.  (Can a baby be impending?  Sounds so ominous!)  I am equal parts stoked and terrified to be a mom. For every squeak and giggle over a new crib or adorable onesie there is also a silent scream of terror inside of me for what that baby will do to me, my sleep, my time, my boobies, my nether regions... you get the drift.  It's an exciting time!  And a terrifying time!

To be totally honest with you, it scares me to be doing so many grown up things when I don't feel much like a grown up at all.  In many ways I still think I'm the little girl I was at 11- collecting popsicles sticks on the back porch and getting mad at my brother for farting on my head.  I swear, I looked down for one second and when I looked up I was an adult.  I have figured out a few things along my way that have made the whole growing up thing a lot easier.  Some I wish I knew years ago and have only recently caught on to.  You probably all have this grown up thing figured out, but in case you don't, here's my 28 secrets of growing up... you know, things that make the whole transition into adulthood a little less bumpy.

1.  If you don't have time to take a shower, you can put on deodorant, spray some perfume and spray dry shampoo in your hair.  This can work for up to four days.  After that you're just gross.

2.  If you don't have time to wash your clothes, you can run a fabric softener sheet all over them.  VOILA!  Your clothes smell like they just came out of the dryer.

3.  When your house is clean you feel less stressed.

4.  Everybody has done something they are less than proud of.  Judge lightly.  Unless they keep doing it over and over and over.  Then you can judge however you feel like.

5.  Once you become an adult you can eat whatever you want and nobody gets mad at you, it's so great!  But your body feels like crap when you do that so do it sparingly.

6.  Remember people's birthdays.

7.  To be a good conversationalist (or a good friend!) ask questions. Remember what people have told you (i.e. "I'm nervous for a test coming up) and ask them about it next time you see them.

8.  Ice cream fixes most problems.

9.  Talk slowly when you are in an argument. 

10.  Don't make fun of people if they dance funny.  It's just rude.

11.  There will always be one cousin/aunt/co-worker/neighbor who offends you.  Start expecting it and you won't feel offended every time.  Or better yet, tell yourself everytime they say something rude you get to buy a new pair of shoes.  You'll start looking forward to the insults!

12.  Exercise can suck while you're doing it, but it feels good after.

13.  Nobody's life is really like the movies.

14.  Plans change.  That's okay.  Abandon that which no longer serves you.  Be willing to be flexible and see other paths than the one you originally planned on.

15.  If you can't remember somebody's name just ask them.  And then think about their name for seven seconds after they tell it to you.  You won't forget again.

16.  If you don't do the dishes tonight, they're still there tomorrow.  They don't do themselves.

17.  People like you if you like them.  Act happy when you see people.

18.  Everybody vomits at some point in their life.  It's to keep us humble and totally grossed out by the food that we eat.

19.  People don't notice your mistakes as much as you think.  (Stolen from The Happiness Project.)

20.  If you don't feel like cooking because you are stressed and overwhelmed, pizzas are only $10.

21.  The world doesn't owe you anything.  Stop expecting "payment" and you'll stop being disappointed.  Treat everything as a "bonus".  It makes you a much more grateful person.  (When I complained in high school that everyone else got to drive a car to school but me, my dad would always say, "Driving a car is a privilege, not a right."  I hated that saying at the time, but now I love it.  I think that same attitude should carry over into almost every facet of our lives.)

22.  If you don't take the garbage out it will smell.  Inevitably.

23.  Don't invest too much time, energy, and passion into things you have no absolutely no control over.  Like professional sports teams or how tall you are.

24.  If you can do something in less than 60 seconds, do it now and not later.  This means hanging up your shirt, returning a text, loading your plate. 

25.  Give people the benefit of the doubt.

26.  Don't flake on people.  If you make plans, stick to them.  You can cancel/ rearrange once, and after that it's just rude. 

27.  Put good energy out into the world and it will somehow find its way back to you.

28.  If someone is successful, it does not mean that you will consequently be less successful.  There is enough in the world for everyone.  There are enough new cars to buy, enough houses to move into, enough husbands to nab, enough babies to love and cuddle.  I have found that the happier I am for other people's successes and opportunities, the more successes and opportunities of my own I have.

That's a wrap!  Make sure to come say hi at Life of Bon and share your secrets of growing up with me.  Or, if you like to get into online relationships slowly, you can always find me on twitter or instagram!



One Pieces Aren't Just For Babies Anymore

If you would have asked me two months ago if I would ever wear this ensemble up above I would have told you no. In fact I think my friend did ask me if I would ever wear a "one piece pant suit" and I responded with "haaaaaaaaaaiiiiillll no" because that's how I respond to most things that involve the words pant and suit. But, here I am wearing exactly what I said no to. This all once again proves that Justin Bieber is the smartest person I never want to meet. Just watch, I'll be wanting to meet the Biebs now next month. Never say never baby, tattoo that one on your forehead. 

ps. be sure to check out in bloom boutique for all sorts of other fabulous finds like this, this, and this. hashtag drool. oh and hey--use code LIY15 for 15% off while you're at it. 


Give The Gift Of Summer

This shop is part of a social shopper marketing insight campaign with Pollinate Media Group® and Lipton, but all my opinions are my own. #bemoretea #pmedia  http://my-disclosur.es/OBsstV

Recently I've been trying to focus on being more of one of "those type of people". You know the kind I mean--the ones who send thank you cards in the mail for hosting a dinner party, the ones who show up with flowers because they know it hasn't been the best day, and the ones surprise you with a special treat just because they were thinking about you. I have never been one of those people. In fact, I think I did well if I actually remembered to write "happy birthday" on somebody's Facebook wall. It's a trait that I hate and one that I have to consciously make an effort to do better at. I'm still not convinced these things come natural to anybody because let's be real, how?! 

Needless to say when I found these Lipton Keurig K-Cups I knew it was time to do something nice for somebody else, my sister especially. She is a huge fan of sweet tea and is also a mother to two of the world's most hyper [but cute] children so I figured it was time she needed a treat of her own. After I gathered up a variety of Lipton K-Cups [they can be found online and in store at retailers nationwide-they have flavors ranging from sweet tea, unsweetened, iced tea lemonade, chai, etc] I headed off to the extravagant store that is Dollar General and found a mason jar for tea over ice, a travel mug for hot tea, magazine, kit kat bars, a candle, a few lemons to sweeten the tea, a card, and then bundled it all up together in a cute little basket. 

I loved how easy [and quite honestly inexpensive] this sweet summer gift was to put together. I can't wait to knock on her door and suddenly become one of those people I've always dreamt about becoming. Changing the world, one cup of sweet tea at a time ;) Be sure to grab some of your own Lipton K-Cups for yourself and somebody else and enjoy every last taste that Summer has to offer. Cheers to happiness friends. 



Children With Bad Haircuts And Other Weekend News

I interrupt my regularly scheduled "do nothing on Sunday night" time to write this blog post. It feels like it's been awhile since I've been in this space and I must say, it feels better than I expected to be back. I think it has been a matter of life being busy and Summertime and everything else awesome that has had me not wanting to be here as often as I sometimes in [ie: middle of winter when there is absolutely nothing by all stretches of the imagination to do besides sit on the computer]. Regardless, here I am. We all may now throw confetti. Which by the way, I totally tried doing with sprinkles last night at a restaurant and I don't think the waiter was overly impressed. YOLO bro, vacuums exist for a reason.

In other news, my dog got shaved this weekend and I truly think it is one of the funniest things I have ever seen.

Parents of children with bad haircuts, I now join you and I hope to never leave you. Why? Because nothing is funnier than a child with a bad haircut. 

I rest my case.

Moving on, the Nelly and Florida Georgia Line concert was as great as it sounds minus all of the people pushing, beer spilling, and other lovely concert extras that you get for free with the purchase of your ticket. Remind me to never stop singing Grillz for as long as I shall live.

Saturday evening I did throw Shawn a surprise party without the surprise. It looked a little somethin' like this [which really is not a good glimpse at all because my camera died after 3 pictures meaning we missed out on taking 20 other people's photos, oops #choosethecuteonesfirst]..

And in the final weekend news, here is what this blog post just interrupted. My favorite thing, a whole lot of nothing. 

From one shaved dog to another, peace out. 



All I Know Is....

+ I am insanely excited about the Florida Georgia Line and NELLY concert taking place tomorrow night. Nelly being in all caps because OMG I LOVE HIM. And FGL..my favorite little douches ever. Goochie goo.

+ I just had a few cocktails which explains why Nelly is in all caps and why I can't stop calling my FGL boys douches. Blame it on the cutoff tees and jean vests. 

+ This also explains why I just told my husband every last detail about the surprise 30th birthday party I am throwing him Saturday night. I mean, nobody actually wants to be surprised do they? 

+ That you should follow me on Instagram so that you know when I pick up dead birds on accident.

+ I forgot to expire my promo code for my 50% off sponsor sale which means SUMMERFUN is still valid.

+ That this tampon video is freaking hilarious and I want to bob for ovaries asap.

+ Every time I sneeze these days pee comes out, confirming 125% why I can never give birth.

+ I still long to be the salsa dancer emoticon. 

+ Speaking of, sometimes I get really annoyed when people don't chime in on group texts. At least throw me a confetti emoticon or a good ole fashioned "bend over and I'll show ya" comment. Something people. 

+ My house smells amazing right now. I would invite you over to sniff it but then I would have to invite you over to sniff it.

+ I am making cowboy crack tomorrow for work. I made a vow to not eat chips at all this week. I failed on Monday. Hence why I am celebrating with cowboy crack. Hashtag live it up. 

+ Love, Yellow is still for sale and you should buy it

+ You should also buy this necklace from Cadorah because it's the perfect amount of edge and class all rolled into one. If you are also the perfect amount of the two [confident we all are], order it and use code LIY10 for 10% off. 

+ That this blog post is now peacin' out. 


Love, Yellow: Mix + Match

And so Love, Yellow returns again. I am pretty excited about this go around because for the first time in Love, Yellow history we are trying something new that involves a little mixin' and matchin'. Variety is the spice of life so they say and to that I say, spice it up my friend. Here's what I was going for this month...

1. A maxi dress because maxi dresses are the best thing ever invented.

2. Something that I could wear during the day casually, at night formally, and most importantly--something that could act as a swimsuit cover-up if I ever felt so inclined to do that. Which by the way, I always feel inclined to do. 

3. AN OUTFIT THAT I NEVER EVER EVER HAVE TO WEAR A BRA WITH. It's true. Bra not required. Proof is in the pictures. 

Fortunately I was able to scratch all three priorities off my list. Here's the thing though---I first found it in pink. And then I found it in black. 

Guess who couldn't decide which one she liked better so she decided to offer you either/or? That's right, this month you can choose which color of dress you would like annnnnnnnnnd that's not all. If you decide to fancy the dress up a bit, you can also decide which color of necklace you want to pair with it. Allow me to show you what I mean.. 

See what we did there? Black necklace, turquoise necklace..either of which are great options for either dress. I know, it's all so overwhelming. WHY DOES LIFE HAVE TO BE SO HARD?

I am assuming you would like to see what the back of the dress looks like as well? Guess no longer...

Interested in ordering yet? Good, let's get down to the nitty gritty.

A few things you should know---

1. Pricing for this month is a little different because of the options that you have. The dress is $32.50 and the necklace is $9.50. This means you can still receive both pieces for the normal $42 Love, Yellow price however, the choice is all yours! Want both dresses and no necklace? Perfect. Want the turquoise necklace only? Perfect. Want the black dress but already own a necklace to pair with it? Perfect. It's like Burger King minus the grease--have it your way baby. 

2. As far as sizing goes, I am typically a size small and am wearing a small in the photos above. 

3. You have exactly one week from today to order. Limited quantities are available so you will want to order soon to ensure you receive your size! 

4. Your order will be shipped within 3 business days of placing your order--no longer waiting a month to receive it! 

5. Remember that if you receive the items and aren't happy with your order, you can ship all or part of it back! Instructions will be included in your order. 

6. Spread the word about your Love, Yellow items! Tweet, Instagram, put it up on a billboard, whatever you feel is necessary ;) Please use the #LoveYellowLook hashtag so that I can be sure to send a thousand kissy faces your way for doing so! 

7. Order now :) 

ps. If all of that wasn't convincing enough on why you should order, it turns out that wearing Love, Yellow outfits will make your man put a ring on it. A huge congratulations to my girl Christine who just got engaged a week ago while wearing last month's Love, Yellow items. I'd like to think it was the outfit that did him in but I have a pretty good feeling it was all her own doing. Congrats lady!!



The Best Piece Of Advice You Will Ever Receive

When sitting down while sweating, make sure it's not in white pants with your cell phone in your back pocket. It's like having a Skoal ring in your pocket except it's an iPhone ring and while it does cause less cancer, it's not something country artists sing about [yet]. 

Oh..and don't show up to your friends house unexpectedly without making sure it's okay first. Remember growing up and accidentally walking in on your parents having intercourse? It's like that except it's not your parents. 

And that concludes my two greatest pieces of advice for June thus far. Stay tuned for what other learning lessons I can stumble upon. 

Before venturing off just yet, I have a little lady [and a few pups] I would like you to say hello to.

That would be Kristyn from Carolina Fireflies [how cute is her blog design?]  As she puts it "This is my blog about real life and real love in the South. So sit down & stay awhile, because 'round here the days are long, the porches are wide, and friends are as numerous as fireflies." 

Kristyn when not blogging is currently busy rescuing the cutest puppies known to mankind. 

Recently she took in this little guy below Koopa [do you not just die?] and while I wish I could say things have been easy for this little one, he was previously abused which led to a ruptured urethra which has now led to antibiotics as his only hope. You can read more about his story here and show support in cheering him on by using the #loveforkoopa hashtag on social media. 

I adore that Kristyn has the heart and passion for rescuing these puppies who wouldn't have a chance otherwise. I also adore that we share a mutual love [or lust] for Jake Owen himself. She is a girl with a heart, humor, and cash to give out. #hollerforadollar 

Make sure to go say hello, spread the love for Koopa, and try your hand at winning 50 bones. 



Learning To Let Go

extensions: tressmerize [use code LIY10 for 10% off] // romper: in bloom boutique 

A few things to mention tonight as I reflect on where my mind has been at this weekend. For starters, let's get the elephant out of the room--those are extensions in my hair. While I wish I could sleep with miracle grow on my hair and wake up like this [anybody else now singing "I woke up like this"..cool me too] I can't. And so that's where these clip in extensions come into play. Within a matter of 2 minutes I have real hair that I can actually do something different with. I had honestly forgotten how to turn on a curling iron after I snapped these suckers into place and wanted to pretty them up. Long story short I am all sorts of excited to start pinning braids and updos and all those other fancy things you long haired people do. Check out Tressmerize asap on how to get your own set and we can be pinterest worthy together. Also, I should mention here that I always said I would never have hair extensions. Bieber was so right when he said never say never, it's almost scary. 

And now, onto other news--I've been realizing more and more with each day passes recently how I am a lot of things that I never thought I was. Starting with patience. It turns out when our house is for sale, I am anything but. I have always been one of those people who prided myself on how patient I am. "Look at me! I am totally patient! See that car in front of me going 12 miles per hour...I am enjoying it!" I'm either learning a lesson on humility or ignorance right now, I'm not sure which one, but it is most likely both. Nearly every other second I am waiting for a showing to be set-up, a call from our Realtor to come, or a car to pass by our house to check it out. And when these things don't happen, my stomach starts to hurt. Because here's the thing--I have absolutely no control over any of this. Going into the situation I was telling everybody "I am completely happy with whatever happens--I am not going to worry or get stressed out about if whether or not we are able to buy the house we really want. If it's supposed to happen, it will...and if it's not, it won't." While that theory would have been a great one to hold on to, this large part of me is suffocating the situation wanting it to happen so badly. I think sometimes I need to get to these points to fix my eyes back on the one who has control over everything. That cliche yet so true saying of "let go and let God" is ringing in my ears more than ever. I have to move out of the way for Him to make a move. Just typing the words makes my stomach feel more at ease. 

It's ironic how you think you know how you will act in a certain situation, until you are directly in it and the way you envisioned to react is the complete opposite of how you do. A very real and awe inspiring example of this is Jacqui over at Baby Boy Bakery who lost her son a few weeks ago. She has been on my mind daily since Ryan was taken away from her ...reading her raw honest thoughts while seeing her live loudly for her son is inspiring and has been forming that ever unknown question of "could I be that brave?". What I am going through is so minor next to her situation and thousands of people everywhere. What I am thankful though is that no matter the size of the circumstance, He is the answer. I don't have to know what will happen with our house, He already does. And I promise you, whatever happens--it will be good.