8.06.2013

When Blogging Hurts Your Feelings


just because it's absolutely one of my favorites
I wasn't planning on writing anything tonight, but here it is 11:30 pm and I knew I wasn't going to fall asleep anytime soon. Sometimes coming to this place just to type it all out is exactly what I need to get back to the place where I want to be (right behind a few minutes with Jesus and a couple of hidden tears in bed). It's on my heart and mind tonight to speak about blogging from a place of truth. While it is fun, fulfilling, and all that other good stuff you hear so much about...sometimes it's hard, and it sucks, and people will say nasty things either directly to you or "anonymously" about you. As much as I want to act like it doesn't affect me, it does. I think it is fair to say that none of us want to have our feelings hurt. Nobody wants to work really hard on something on a daily basis only to give it to somebody else to tear apart. I hate admitting that I am allowing other people to steal my joy and my desire to be here, but I also don't think it's fair to act like blogging is all rainbows and glitter. There are days (and weeks) where I don't want to be here. Readers seem distant, my content seems lacking, I think too much about what others will say about what I just published, I get more caught up on how many people will like my photo on Instagram instead of how I can be a better friend to somebody who needs it. This whole "putting yourself out there" on a regular basis for others to do what they want with it can be somewhat scary and often draining. Days like today don't make it seem worth it. I believe that it is, but sometimes I don't feel it. It's good though..these moments. We all need moments where we have to remember exactly what we are. For me that is a daughter to a God who loves me an unfathomable amount, a wife, daughter, sister, aunt, co-worker, and friend to some of the greatest people on this planet. When I step back and think about that simple truth--well, it's a pretty dang good thing to be reminded of. 
This place truly is great 98% of the time, but that other 2%...well, it's hard. But you know what they say--nothing worth doing is easy. Now go love and allow yourself to be loved.  That's really all we want isn't it? 
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80 comments:

  1. Oh how right!:) You can write such posts pretty good!:)

    Bye,
    NIKA B.

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  2. Nobody likes a negative nancy! It's sad how many people weren't taught that if they have nothing nice to say then don't say anything at all. I love reading your blog. It's silly, fun, interesting, and the opposite of serious (except for this post). I really don't see how people find ways to speak negatively of you or your blog. You respond to the negativity very ladylike though, which speaks volumes of who you are as a person. Keep your chin up & keep being you.

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  3. Positive comments on my blog posts keep me motivated and make me feel awesome. But I seem to keep forgetting to comment on other people's blogs and hopefully give them a little bit of the same feeling I get when people leave me messages.

    I'm sorry to hear that there are people out there who are being unkind and trying to bring you down.

    I love your blog. I love it when my Bloglovin' feed tells me you have a new post. You're a daily read for me. Your spunk, spirit, and enthusiasm for life is amazing and inspiring. I'm glad you didn't let such disrespectful people keep you from posting tonight. It just goes to show how awesome you are.

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    1. I just want to ditto this! Well said!

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  4. Thank you for your words, your motivation, your hard work and your encouragement you put into your blog. Thank you for letting us into your life and sharing your inner most feelings. I'm sure it's hard but you are so relatable and funny might I add. ;) A good pick me up.
    Although there's negativity that comes with blogging, those struggles will teach you that the Lord is stronger, that your courage outweighs any unkind words and your support in this "blogging world" is genuine and bigger than you could imagine. :)
    Have a beautiful night Erin!
    Prayers sent your way.

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  5. Thanks for sharing the raw stuff too Erin. I love reading what's on your heart. You're amazing. And I think that the majority of us who type in livinginyellow to the address bar on our computer every.single.day, do it because we know that. We know you're an amazing woman full of joy and love, and that it's infectious and encouraging to read your words every day. Keep remembering the truth of who you are, in the face of lies. Because that's what they are. Lies. They're lies from the enemy & lies from sin, jealousy, pride, whatever it may be. Remember those things you listed. Remember who you are. You're a daughter of the King who loves you, has redeemed you & calls you His Beloved. You're a woman of love, joy, peace, laughter, encouragement. You're that kind of woman & even when you're not feeling like it or say something to quick, or make a mistake, or are struggling, the people who see you for who you are will always have grace for you and encouragement for you. You know? We can just pray for the haters, pray they have a little more joy and love in their lives, too. Love you Erin!

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  6. I always love reading your blog and I always get a good laugh! You put a lot of positivity out there to many people and it is a shame some people bring negativity.

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  7. Your light and humor bring smiles to peoples faces constantly. Don't forget how important being able to make people laugh is. It's truly a gift and I think you're a brave women to share yourself so openly all the time. The good and the bad, people still love reading here.

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  8. You know what Erin. It doesn't matter what you do in life. There will always be haters. In your case, I think it is the fact that your blog is really blooming. I also think that you come across in a way that is funny. There really are people out there that would much rather see you fail and read about negative stuff.

    I really believe that God has lead you to this little corner of your life. I am not going to lie. Sometimes, when I am sad or not having a very good day. I come to your blog. You never fail!!! I walk away smiling, laughing and feeling so much better! If you have done that for one person. Then you have accomplished something beautiful.

    I pray for people like the ones who leave mean comments because somewhere in their life. Things are not right.

    Keep on blogging. I KNOW there are way more people out there that love you then the very few that are just plain mean. Actually, even the haters must love your blog...They keep reading. :-)

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  9. I completely agree, blogging can be super hard. Luckily though I don't have the problem of people being mean, my biggest problem is feeling like I write and write but hardly have any readers. Sometimes I wonder if anyone really cares. Those moments I try to go back and reread old posts and that does make me feel better. It's nice to know ill have the journal of this time in my life to look back on.
    I may be a silent lurker but I love your blog and want to thank you for being so encouraging always! :)

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  10. Hey lovely lady, I often read but don't often comment because, well you know, you're one of those really big bloggers with thousands of readers and all.. ;) But just wanted to chime in on this one and say.. I love your voice, your honesty and your humor. You make me laugh regularly and I admire you for you're ability to put so much of yourself into your writing. Keep writing, keep being you, and please, keep sharing.

    Aanie (from Little Haven & The Active Mum)

    xx

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  11. Very vulnerable and honest. And a great reminder to carry on, knowing that it won't all be sunshine and roses.

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  12. Sooooooo sorry. We all feel it. Thanks for being honest and putting it out there. When I feel this way (which is often, lately) I reach out to my loyal friend readers and form even closer bonds with them. Screw the meanies. They suck. The big one.

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  13. Your always so open and honest. That is why you have so many readers, active readers who leave comments. Keep doing what you're doing.

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  14. Sometimes people suck. I can't tell you not to worry about it, because I worry about stuff like that, too. All you can do is try to remember that their opinion doesn't matter, and you probably wouldn't really like them in person anyway. I like you blog, and that's all that matters! It's nice to get a regular dose of rainbows and glitter, when sometimes my life with two little boys feels sadly lacking in girly things. Keep praying, and smiling, and blogging!

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  15. Love it!! I hope you get bombarded with comments today as readers are encouraged and inspired by your openness! I almost quit my blog last week, so I know what you're talking about! I love the way you ended it...go love!

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  16. Erin,
    I absolutely love how you put yourself out there and at times that courage you have has rubbed off on me. Your blog is a BIG part of why I felt like I could start my own blog! Keep your chin up and doin' what you're doin'!
    xox
    Kristina

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  17. I for one, am so happy that you blog Erin. My days would not be same without you. : ) Thanks for this post because can all relate to having to deal with mean people whether we blog or not. You'd think as adults, people would learn to treat others with respect. Makes me sad but you rock. I'm happy that there are wonderful people like you in bloggy land!

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  18. Had to comment, I usually am a "silent reader" (shame on me I know) but I do love reading your blog and as a person who really cares what people think of me (regardless how many times I tell you I don't) it's hard. Especially for someone with such a large readership.
    But just know there are those of us out here who love reading you, love learning about you and seeing these adventures of yours (whether it be a new boat or a new outfit) and for some reason we feel connected to you.
    I think you have a lot more bloggy friend than you know and we got your back!

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  19. I would like to know what is going on in someone's life that they have to take time out of their day to actually write something mean to someone?!?! Who does that??

    Erin, I may not always agree with whatever you write 100% of the time, but that's what makes you and your blog interesting and fun and funny! You've been nothing but nice to me and I think you have a gift for this. A gift of writing and business sense that I envy. It is easy for me to say "Just ignore the haters." But I know it isn't. Just try to remember that there are so many more people out there that think the world of you. Sometimes it's just nice to hear and hopefully it's a balm to your spirit.

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  20. Well, I just found you a week or so ago and love you! Keep up the great work!

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  21. Keep on keeping on! We all experience negativity from our blogs at some point. Its what we do with the energy that matters.

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  22. Erin,
    Your blog was the first one I ever started reading. I love your positive perspective on life, and you make me laugh. Bonus! I am sorry your feelings are hurt. I will pray for you and pray for the Haters. Hugs.
    Becky

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  23. I look forward to your blog everyday in my inbox! Thank you for what you do!!

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  24. Sometimes people (on the internet and in real life) are mean. It's difficult, but you can't let people like that get under your skin. They're miserable and want everyone else to be miserable, too. You are hilarious and write and do great things. Ignore the jerks.

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  25. I'm in such a similar place right now, Erin. So, so similar.
    And now I wish we could both just go run away to somewhere without any internet and sip on cocktails for a week straight. Together, of course.

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  26. Erin! We adore you and I hope you know that bad days are normal and being hurt by mean people is normal and I think days where we hate to blog (or weeks!) is normal. I always bounce back and I think you'll find that your sense of fun in blogging will return (not that I've noticed it being gone!) and all will be well. You are a gift and many, many, many people enjoy what you bring to the table.

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  27. ugh. so so frustrating. keep your head up, we all think you're amazing.

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  28. This. Thank you Erin, it was well said. I always love how genuine and you your blog is, whether it's lighthearted or serious!

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  29. How right you are. Putting yourself out there for the world...especially the way us bloggers do, makes us vulnerable to criticism and down-right hateful words. Hold that head up and know that you are an inspiration to so many people, me included!

    Chels @ Red Velvet Rooster

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  30. There are so many of us who love you! Don't give up!

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  31. Your blog is my absolute favourite. And you are just awesome.

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  32. I hate that there are people out there that sit behind computers and hate. I have my own personal snark fests sometimes, but I'm not going to post anything out there. I feel like if you're posting positive things and sharing your life why should I. There are blogs I've decided I don't like anymore, and I just don't read them. Its that simple. I still love coming here to LIY, I loved it when it was little, I love it now that its big, and I love the great funny things you post. Give it go God hun, and ignore the haters.

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  33. Erin, I do not join contests, comment, post, share, or any of those things I should participate in; however, I do enjoy your blog simply for the reading. Please know that there are probably many of us out there that don't say much (at all), but really enjoy following you and your life - it's fun and I think you are an inspirational person. We all have those days, and we need them to really appreciate the good ones. Keep your head up and remember the silent readers out there that enjoy your posts, always :)

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  34. There are certainly days when blogging sucks. Hope things get better for you soon!

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  35. It's unfortunate that there's other people who feel the need to rip people apart & treat so horribly! I'm sorry that you're dealing with this right now! However, I know that a little time with the man upstairs is always a good thing & letting it all out in a little cry never hurt either. Heck! I just had a crying sesh yesterday afternoon... Why? I don't know. I just NEEDED it! Hugs to you, you hilariously funny, beautiful, out-going lady! You're amazeballs!

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  36. I'm with you girlfriend. I'm sorry your feelings were hurt :( you are amazing and inspiring-keep up the good work!

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  37. Just found your blog yesterday and am so glad I read this post this morning. I've been feeling the same way with blogging. I am in the beginning stages,but I was getting so wrapped up in blogging to gain more readers/followers. Thanks for the reminder to remember what I am.

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  38. People are turds....
    WE ALL LOVE YA!
    Jules

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  39. Hey! Don't let people hurt your feelings on here! I, for one, have only had a handful of my blog friends to talk to over the past few days. I've been five weeks pregnant, bleeding, and keeping it a secret from most people other than my best friend and my fiance. I didn't even tell my parents until I found out yesterday that I was actually having a miscarriage. I literally counted on strangers in blogland to carry me through one of the toughest things that a woman can ever go through. And for that, I'm so very thankful. So if someone on here has something bad to say about you-- forget about them. There are so many of us that read what you write and love it.. forget about the nay-sayers.. the haters, and the jealous-- their blogs probably stink anyways.

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  40. I've been reading your blog for a little while now and you are nothing but positive and raw. Thank you for sharing it all! ::hugs::

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  41. I know how you feel and can totally relate -- thanks for opening up and sharing this girl! xo

    http://allthingsprettyandlittle.blogspot.com/

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  42. Amen sister! Sure am thankful you put yourself out there though. :)

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  43. Thanks for sharing, Erin! Don't let others get your down...your blog is always an inspiration and blessing to me!

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  44. I admire your openness and courage. My secret wish is to one day have a blog but I know I could never handle any negative comments that I would in evidently get. I absolutely LOVE reading your blog even though I have never commented on it until now. You make me laugh. You inspire me. You ALWAYS make me smile. I LOVE your sense of humor because it is so much like mine. Just like some of the other comments have stated, have a good cry and then forget about it. Most of your readers (like me) LOVE you!

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  45. Don't you just wish we could leave the "mean kids" behind in elementary school?
    It's evident in your blog that you're a good person and you don't deserve that negativity...but such is life. Forget it and move on. Those people aren't worth your energy. :)

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  46. In all that, you should write this blog for YOU! You can't let others get you down. Plus, with one 'mean kid', you have hundreds of us who support you and follow loyally! Don't let them get you down! :)

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  47. I couldn't agree with you more on this - I often try not to let the things people say bother me, but we're human and you just can't help it! I had an email (not a post, an actual email) from someone last week telling me how much my blog sucked and how they couldn't believe that garbage is out there for people to read because really it should be on the bottom of his shoe where "sh*t" belonged. Yeah I cried at that one and started to question everything I was doing. But really for every nasty comment, you get hundreds of amazing comments so keep up your hard work because your blog is truly such a joy to read! I know I don't comment that often, but your blog is one of my daily reads and I DO love all your instagram photos!! Stay positive pretty girl!! xoxo

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  48. Thank you for the honest message. As a new blogger, I know I need to hear about the "dark" side before I encounter it... Thank you for sharing. I hope your day got better.

    -Kate
    www.theflorkens.com

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  49. Erin you're the best! I love your perspective and maturity in this situation. I'm sorry your heart is heavy tonight and hurting. God is greater than any hurt and I'm glad to know you have a good relationship with Him. Love and hugs xxx

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  50. Erin you're the best! I love your perspective and maturity in this situation. I'm sorry your heart is heavy tonight and hurting. God is greater than any hurt and I'm glad to know you have a good relationship with Him. Love and hugs xxx

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  51. Amen, Sister! You are beautiful & you are loved. Whenever you feel the desire...we are all here to love & accept you. Blogging should never be a "have to thing", but rather a "I really want to thing". That's what I've told myself, & why my Blog is seriously neglected at the moment. =) The people that love you will never leave you & the ones who don't take the time to GET to know you...never were here in the first place. Besides...this is your HOME. You would never invite "mean" into your home, so kick the poison out! =) Love you tons! XO

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  52. I always felt with blogging that I never quite measured up, and it became more discouraging than inspiring for me...I've been thinking lately of trying again. But I realized I spent more time trying to make my blog look cool like everyone else's than I spent writing!!
    I'm still reading everyone's stories, but for now I'm content just living mine out!! Best wishes with your blog though...love it <3

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  53. what a wonderful post and amazing perspective. <3

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  54. Well I think you're brilliant. And the line "I get more caught up on how many people will like my photo on Instagram instead of how I can be a better friend to somebody who needs it." really made me sit up and think. I'm nowhere near you in terms of size and I forget this all the time.
    You have such a great look on this whole thing. Just keep doing what you're doing and it'll all be awesome. xx

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  55. I think Aanie pretty much read my mind: meaning I read your blog on a daily basis and think you get plenty of good feedback from the from thousands of followers so I don't often comment.
    And know that your voice, and honesty and humor help the rest of us make it through our days. I admire your bravery in putting yourself out there and for continuing to write even though there are some rough days. You make me laugh regularly and I admire you for your ability to put so much of yourself into your writing. Keep writing, keep being you, and please, keep sharing.

    Best, Brandi

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  56. Count your blessings and the negative comments will go away. This comes from people that envy what your doing annd would love to do just great things and dont know how, and are more busy trying to bring the other down. Keep your head up, other bloggers like me read your post :)

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  57. I love this post and your ability to be so honest and hilarious at the same time. Keep blogging-- we'd miss you.

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  58. Love how honest you are and hope all is going okay with you in real life. I've had this song stuck in my head all weekend, so I'm glad to hear it on your blog too!

    -Chelsea
    chelsandthecity.blogspot.com

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  59. Love your honesty in this post. Definitely can relate to the "readers seem distant" and "content lacking" it's hard to keep consistent content coming!

    Corbin
    decor-eat

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  60. Hi Erin, I usually don't comment on blogs (I know, I'm a bit of a troll ha!) but I felt the need to comment on this post. You are wonderful and beautiful and I love your honesty! I love your style, your quirky-ness and everything you do here in this small part of the internet! I visit your blog every day to see what you are up to and what fashion ideas I can steal from you! BTW - I have that to-go wine cup on order from Amazon! Thanks for sharing about that! Haters will always hate and I know it can be hard to stay positive. But I just want you to know that to me, you are wonderful and I'm so glad you are sharing with us!

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  61. This is so related. I love your blog and you have so many fans. Keep writing! I hope my comment can shine a little bit of light for those nasty keyboard warrior's. How miserable must one be to make a nasty remark on someone's blog and to do it anonymously. You rock Erin!

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  62. I am a fairly new reader of your blog! & I love it! Keep doing what you're doing! Its great! Don't let the haters get you down!

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  63. I love this post! Haters gonna hate, but you have to do you. And those who love it will keep coming back!

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  64. I just started reading your blog and I enjoy it a lot - a lot a lot. I don't often comment because like one of the other readers mentioned, you're a big timer and commenting seems mostly pointless. You have a bazillion followers and it seems just as many comments so I'm sure you're way too busy to read them all let alone reply. I just kind of troll. I'm a follow & "Like" kind of reader, a silent cheerleader if you will. Maybe that's all it really is when you feel like your readers seem distant?

    As far as negative comments go - meh, it's internet land and a "safe" place for meanies to be mean - misery loves company. Chin up.

    LittleBirdBlogs

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  65. Good word. Preach it. I've had a few of those 2% days lately, so I appreciate the encouragement.

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  66. Been there lover face sorry ure dealing with it. Negative Nancys are wack! Keep being ure awesome self. Love ya!

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  67. I think there are a lot of readers who read but don't comment on the "big blogs." I used to comment here but I never got a reply. I don't take it personally. I don't see how you could reply to them all without an assistant!! You are only one person. But that could be why some others don't as well. We are just one comment of a zillion so it hardly feels like it matters if we do or not. I read and enjoy your blog even if I don't comment. It's one thing to be jealous 'cause it happens but entirely another to be evil towards someone because of your own feelings of insecurity. Just keep doing what you love.

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  68. This reminds me of Ashley's speech at Elevate....the "other" side of blogging. It's hard. I am the same way. I see cryptic tweets that I wonder if are meant towards me. I constantly worry about what I say on my blog. (And I have always admired you because it has always seemed like you write with such ease! )

    Honestly, all we can do is try to do the best job we can, and not worry so much about those who are unappreciative of it.

    Miss you!! xo JA

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  69. I think you're great, and appreciate your blog more than you know! Sending prayers your way for days like these...

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  70. I always love reading your blog! You are funny and silly and are a great pick me up in my day. Keep doing what your doing because you do it so well! The negative commenters are clearly having insecurity issues and try to make themselves feel better by putting others down.
    Kristin

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  71. Yours is one of those blogs that i actually type in every morning into that little URL spot. Crazy, I know. I LOVE YOUR WRITING. Seriously. That's it. Thanks for making every work-day a little more tolerable ;)

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  72. I can't find my original comment...so I am going to comment again.

    I am a new reader and LOVE your blog. I am excited each day when I see a new post on my Bloglovin' app.
    Keep up the awesome work...wish I had a friend like you in real life!!

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  73. I love you and think about you all the time. I don't get why people need to share the negativity - keep it to yourself. We already go out on a limb to share our lives with everyone, in hopes to enlighten or brighten somebodies day. Gosh, people sometimes.

    Keep your head up. We at the Wierlo household love you.

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  74. I remember the time a ex-follower left me a blog comment with a nasty message & a link to HER blog where she had dedicated an entire post about me. I cried. People can be so cruel, but you have so many other followers who adore you! Don't give up on us! :-)

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  75. I'm a little late checking my emails, but just wanted you to know that your blog is the first one I want to read with my cup of coffee in the mornings.. you keep your head up girl, you have enough love from us girls out here to make up for all of the Debbie-Downers that come across every once in a while... their just there to test your patience and I believe their probably just jealous a little ;)

    YOUR.THE.BEST.

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I read and appreciate every one of your comments. Thanks for stopping by my space and sharing a piece of yourself on this huge ole internet. I meant that in the least creepy way possible. I'm just good at making everything awkward. Anyhow, thank you for your comments. They make me smile :)