4.24.2013

Getting Personal (Answering The Tough Questions)


Everyday we are asked questions--most of which are easy to answer and don't require much thought. How are you? Good. What'd you eat for lunch? Bacon cheeseburger. Should we go to Target or not go to Target? Go to Target. One bowl of mac and cheese or two? Three. 

But what happens when you get asked a question that makes you stop in your tracks and actually makes you do something that your brain really isn't really used to doing...thinking? It seems as though these types of questions have been popping up in my life recently. Ones either I've asked others, people have asked me, or my mind has asked itself. And every single time I freeze because you know, I don't really know. I'm used to thinking about if I should wear earrings instead of a necklace--not if I truly want kids or not in "two years" like I always say. So today, I'm preparing myself. I'm settin' the record straight so that the next time somebody asks me something a little deeper, I will actually have an answer. I mean sure, these answers could be all be completely different tomorrow, but right in this moment..this is how I am answering. 

Allow me to have a brief interview with myself. You're welcome to read along. Heck, maybe you'll ask yourself the same questions as you read and think about how you would answer them. We can have one giant "get to know yourself better" sesh if you will.  

1. If you could do one thing differently in your life, what would it be?
To begin with, there are several things I would do differently. I know you aren't "supposed" to have any regrets but I think that statement is rather selfish. I've hurt people. I should regret that. But I don't want to think about this question as a "regret" question. I want to think of it as "what decision do I wish I would've chosen differently that could have made this life a little fuller than it is now". And to that I say, I would have not rushed my life through high school. I started dating Shawn when I was 15 and a freshman. He was two years older--meaning for the last two years of my high school stint, I was focused only on getting out. I started selling real estate at the beginning of my senior year. I graduated at semester. I didn't attend my senior prom. There was a lot of life that I didn't live. Shoot. I didn't even have an alcoholic drink in those four years (which is the responsible thing to do all you minors reading). I didn't take advantage of some of the best years of my life. And that..that makes me a little sad. 

okay I do regret my choice of high school make-up

2. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Good question Erin. I have a feeling I might sit here for 20 minutes formulating an answer. Okay let's try this. In five years I see myself happy. I don't know if I will live in a different house, I don't know if I will have kids, I don't know if I will be in the same job, I don't know if I will have the same friends, but I do know one thing. I want to be happy. 

3. Do you honestly want kids?
Some days I believe I do. Some days I believe I don't. I tell everybody that I want kids in two years--I don't. I love kids, I just don't have a desire for them. It may be for selfish reasons like "I absolutely love my life as is with no little people to answer to" and I don't find a problem in that. I would rather know what I want than do something because I think I am supposed to. If it happens it happens, but I am certainly not wishing it does anytime soon. 

4. What has been the best moment of your life so far?
I have these "best moments" on a weekly basis. I swear nothing is better than the moment I am in right now on a regular basis. I am a huge advocate of creating moments that I will remember forever. Except then I forget them the next day (which I why I feel the need to repeatedly make these moments). I could say the cliche answer of "my wedding day" but I don't believe that was the best. Sure it was a great moment, but the absolute best? I'll tell you one of the best moments. When I learned in the midst of a tough situation that this God who I always "believed" in since I was a little girl, is in fact real. I've never doubted His existence and love for me since. I cry thinking about that moment and the amount of beauty wrapped up in it. I could go into detail but for now I'll savor it for myself. It was good. 

5. What is your life theme song?
I was just asked this at work and holy cow, it took me some time and a lot of googling of lyrics to determine the answer. Even now I am choosing to answer this differently than I did at work. For now I'm going with the  good ole classic "I Hope You Dance" by Lee Ann Womack. Whether life is good or bad, I still want to dance danggit. Nor do I ever want to ever lose my sense of wonder. And I always (always) want to feel small when I stand beside the ocean. 


6. What is one thing you have yet to accomplish that you want to do before you die?
I want to learn how to love unconditionally. Well. 

7. If you could choose one thing to be known for, what would it be?
Making other people smile while smiling myself. 

8. If you could do anything you wanted right in this very moment (no consequences, no fear, etc), what would it be?
I would gather up every single person that I have a strong bond with and hop on a plane to somewhere amazingly beautiful and sip cocktails around a fire pit with music playing in the background (preferably the cupid shuffle) and just sit there and know "this..this is what life is about". 

9. What has been the most challenging moment in your life?
Death. I hate it. Shawn's dad, our best friend in high school, my grandma, and a child that I never met. Every one of those situations has been challenging in different ways but yet they all share a common denominator that bothers me to no end--I had no control over offering a different solution. 


10. Summarize yourself in one word.
Evolving. 

And that completes my personal interview. Phew. That was more challenging (and time consuming) than I thought it would be. Hey I know! If you want to ask yourself the same questions and answer them on your blog, play along. Just link up below and that's that. 

It’s good every once in a while to ask yourself the hard questions, yes? 

"Finding Yourself 102" will resume tomorrow. Same time, same place.

Kidding. 

I'm ready for a drink.
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50 comments:

  1. I'm not that into kids either! I feel like an alien saying it and therefore I don't say it often. It's nice to come across a woman who may understand. It seems like everyone is pregnant but me right now!! Death is a challenging and very scary thing for me too. I haven't had to deal with losing loved ones but I know it will happen and it's hard to face.

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  2. I really love your honesty. And simplicity. And straight-forward-ness.
    You're awesome. and I'm glad to link up!

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  3. Love this! Thanks for sharing your thoughts...questions like these run through my mind a million times a day! I think you're right that it's good to take time to seriously think through your answers...if for no one's benefit but your own.

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  4. Love this post friend! Coming from someone who has kids, there is nothing wrong with not wanting to have any of your own and it drives me mad that society makes you feel bad if your a married woman with no kids! I also LOVE the song, "I hope you dance". It's one of my all time favorites!

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  5. My best friend died too... 8 years ago this July... its amazing how much I still miss him.... death blows and never gets any easier...

    On a brighter note - you make people smile all the time woman... check that box off sista ;)

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  6. I love this dear! I might just have to make a post about it!

    My dad died when I was seven and I have lost several people close to me and it never gets easier...but knowing that God has them safe and in a better place is always reassuring.

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  7. So good to get to know you a little better!! Love the choice in song, I hope you dance! So positive! We would be great friends! :) You are adorable!
    -Bridgette
    http://bridgettenicole.blogspot.com

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  8. love this!!! great post idea too!
    Thanks for being so open and honest - these posts are always the toughest.

    NEXT UP - your closet. I am stealing everything in it...but I will leave you a few basics.

    :)

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  9. I too started dating my boyfriend when I was in high school. I'm hoping our story turns out just as good as yours!!

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  10. I would love to hear all about that moment when you truly, really felt God! I`ve been having a bit of a hard time lately, and that's exactly the moment I am searching for right now. But I respect if you want to keep it to yourself, too.

    Some Snapshots Blog
    Jess

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  11. I've been reading for a while now, and I can honestly say this....you, have a serious gift! You make me smile....daily! Thanks.

    Erin

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  12. I like that you're so honest about not wanting kids. I'm the opposite, I don't really like kids in general (not in a mean way, ha!) but I always knew I wanted to have a child. That said, now that I have one, I never want another. I've never wanted a lot of kids and always loved the idea of having an only child. People think I'm crazy, and I get a lot of weird comments about it because I didn't become baby obsessed after having my one (perfect) one (ha). I also get the "you're a terrible person for not giving your child a sibling" comments a lot. ppssshhhhh.....

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    1. unless there is someone sharing the shoes you are walking in the same time you are...tell them to go kick rocks!! live for you honey!!

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  13. I've been in a weird place lately, and you really couldn't have thrown these questions out at any better time, honestly. I'm going to think about them for a bit before I post my answers, but thank you for this! Xoxo!

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  14. I love your answer to #8 because that's exactly what I would do! And I love your honesty about kids. I agree the best decision is what's best for you and I hate when people interrogate those who don't want kids. Why would you want to force someone who doesn't want kids to be a parent?!? It baffles me.

    Xoxo
    Mags
    www.magsmind22.blogspot.com

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  15. Beautiful answers and so insightful :) I'm loving this.

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  16. I jumped in the game! You really need to expound upon wanting to learn to unconditionally love...That sounds pretty deep!

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  17. Love how honest you are about not wanting kids....I personally never wanted them either, and although I adore/would die for the one I have, I would never go back for more. Totally gonna link up to this one!

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  18. I had a desire for kids, and then I had one, and I'm trying hard to find a desire to have a second! But I don't want an only child...

    I wish I could've changed my last couple years of high school too. Bad boyfriends, bad decisions, too much focus on the wrong things.

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  19. LIKE LIKE LIKE!
    Well done on your interview! hehe
    http://johced-ourjourneytoeverywhere.blogspot.com/
    xxx

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  20. I like #7...and your outfit! :)

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  21. Love your honesty, especially on the kids question. I find myself going back and forth all the time. And I definitely don't think it's being selfish to say "no" because you want to keep your life the way it is, there are lots of good reasons to have kids but doing it to fit a social norm definitely isn't one of them!

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  22. great post; i like when its gettin' deep up in here!

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  23. you are inspiring Erin. I love how you choose to live your life. and I love these questions, something we should really all ask ourselves

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  24. I love this post, E! Going to go right mine now :)

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  25. New Reader/Follower here just found your blog and I have been missing out!!! Great post! Very honest and geniunie. Its ok to love your life with out kids. I have one and everyone thinks I shoulf have another one but Im like uhh no we are A ok!!!

    Toya
    www.kismetandkilograms.blogspot.com

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  26. I don't know how I haven't been following your blog but no worries I am now! & I absolutely loved this post! Very honest (:

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  27. I absolutely agree with you on the kids thing & people think that it's selfish. Maybe it is. Maybe I'll change my mind one day. Maybe I'll want kids some day. But life is good & honestly a dog is more than a handful. At least you can board him if you need to get away/vacation/etc. What do you do with kids? You can't crate them!

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  28. Love the honesty! I read a great/hilarious blog post the other day called I'm not broken because I'm not a Mom (http://www.mamapop.com/2013/04/not-broken-because-im-not-a-mom.html). I have several friends and family members who have chosen not to have kids. I can't believe the kinds of things people think it's ok to say to them sometimes.

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  29. well after seeing you and shawn in that picture from high school you are both aging fabulously! you both must have great genes!
    you are absolutely right we MUST ask ourselves the hard questions every now and then...how else can we gauge our growth as human beings if we don't?
    you have great insight into life and other things...be very grateful for that honey!
    xo Regina

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  30. Your response to number 4 just made me love you even more than I already do :)

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  32. I don't get to comment all the time but I seriously love you! If I am ever feeling down I just come ova heyaaaaa and get a good laugh and a smile! Love your answers and I think I am going to make this tomorrows post!

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  33. I def didn't think some of these questions would be so difficult, but there were. In the good way! So glad I decided to hop aboard with this link up - I surprised myself a bit!

    xoxo Meagan

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  34. This is really great! I think asking those hard questions is totally necessary sometimes. :)
    xoxo Aimee
    bowsandbeau-ties.blogspot.com

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  35. Thanks for sharing Erin, your genuine heart shines through yet again. You're a beauty friend xx

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  36. I love your blog. It's... fresh. Thanks for this linkup. I never woulda found you without it.

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  37. I'm a new follower. What a great link up! Thank you so much for sharing! :)

    Krys @ Sunshine&Rain

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  38. Sooooo glad another woman out there is brave enough to say they don't want kids thank you!

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  39. Thanks for the tough questions! I feel like I just left my therapist and am on top of the world now!

    Simplystevieblog.blogspot.com

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  40. This is a great link up...I definitely should start thinking about some of these questions....I'm a minor, (and no worries, I've no thoughts about drinking alcoholic beverages before the proper age) ;) but what you said about high school really hit me hard. I still have a chance - to enjoy high school...and even though I'm almost out, and I've only ever thought about wanting to be out, I guess in the long run these will be some of the best years of my life, and I should treat them as such. I'm not trying to get out because of a guy, I guess I just always thought the faster I got out of HS the faster I could live life...but life is so grown-up once your out of high school. Jobs, bills, college....yikes. Thanks for these questions. :) I'll be thinking about them.

    ~Dakota

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  41. I always say yes to three bowls of mac & cheese too! I am going to have to let these questions percolate in my mind over the weekend... thanks for kicking my brain into gear a bit! Oh, and you're cute!
    xx
    Here&Now

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  42. I am excited to join in on this conversation! This is my first link up and it was much easier than I had originally thought.

    Thanks,
    Katie

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  43. I joined in on this fun idea!

    Find yourself 101, fabulous! : )

    http://breannaschebell.blogspot.com/2013/04/answering-some-tough-questions.html

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  44. I appreciate your honesty in answering the tough questions! Great post and it allows us in the blog world to get to know you a little better.

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  45. I appreciate your honesty in answering the tough questions! Great post and it allows us in the blog world to get to know you a little better.

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  46. love your number three...couldn't have said it better myself.

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  47. I am new to your blog and have only read a few posts. I was intrigued by your answer to #3 though about wanting/ not wanting kids. I have 2 kids of my own and I love being a mom. If you are up for reading another perspective about motherhood, I highly recommend reading this blog post that I just read.

    http://www.71toes.com/2013/05/teach-these-souls-to-fly-give-away.html

    I am not trying to force my views on you, I just thought that this portrayed beautifully why motherhood is so important and fulfilling.

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I read and appreciate every one of your comments. Thanks for stopping by my space and sharing a piece of yourself on this huge ole internet. I meant that in the least creepy way possible. I'm just good at making everything awkward. Anyhow, thank you for your comments. They make me smile :)