3.28.2013

Recent Realizations


1. I am becoming flakier every day that passes. And I’m not just talking about the skin that is now falling off of my arms thanks to my Florida tan fading. But flaky in the sense that it  takes people reminding me 2327 times in order for me to do something. And emails? Don’t get me started there. I have emails from November that have yet to be responded to. Good emails. Emails that I am excited about responding to. But yet I just haven’t. I used to be on it responding to text messages. These days? Eh’. I’ll get to them by the end of the day (or the next). I don’t know what to blame this on (other than myself). I’ve found myself just wanting to escape all things that require responses. Which really isn’t cool. A season. It’s gotta be a season. Right?!

2. Along with that, I finally decided that I can’t do it all. Not that I ever thought I was actually “doing it all”, but I sure was trying to wear that crown. Turns out the crown doesn’t fit on my head. I had this huge control issue going on with how I was running this blog. After several baths and breakdowns of yelling “Ahhhhhhh….I CANT DO THIS ALL ANYMORE!!!” I decided to switch over to Passionfruit to handle my sponsor buttons. I know. All that build up for that measly announcement. And I know this doesn’t sound like a big deal to so many of you but trust me. It was a big deal. Thank goodness for people like Heather who are on speed dial for such decisions. She’s a gem that one is. Anyhow, now would be the appropriate time to say—go book your spot for April. I am still 100% confused with how I am handling it as I am working on getting those who had previously booked filtered into this process, but just know that if you book something—you will hear from me and I will make sure we get it all taken care of.

3. I have been spending too much time and attention recently investing myself into negativity floating around in blog world. I see comments here and there about my consultation services and how it’s a “self-serving service”. I read forums that say I am “too into the money”. I get tweets questioning the Q&A sessions I host. As not enjoyable as it is to read those things, it has been great to really evaluate the decisions I have made for this blog and my reasoning behind it. It is liberating when you can step back, evaluate, and conclude that “yes, I agree with (and enjoy) what I am doing here..” and be proud of the work that I have put into all of this. You guys. Trust in the decisions you make. That’s all I am going to say on this one.


4. I want to move to Hawaii. Just sell it all and go. I don’t want to be one of those people who look back on my life and know that I never acted on any of the radical thoughts I had. Life’s too short. Why not spend it surrounded by palm trees, oceans, and sand? And no. I have never been to Hawaii. But I can imagine it’s a place worth living? (mom and dad—see you there).

5. Working out feels dang good. And yes I may have only done it once this week but it may have inspired me to do it again next week.  

           

6. It’s April next week. I still don’t know how that happened. April means one thing. Arizona. Welcome back sunshine, welcome back.

7. I have 29 boxes of macaroni and cheese to mail out. To all of you who said that I kept the cardigan, bracelet, and jeans…you were right. And to celebrate you get dry noodles and processed cheese. HOORAY. If you'd like to claim your box, email me your address with the subject YUMM. 

Any recent realizations you have had? Do tell.

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48 comments:

  1. #4...I actually checked on housing costs in Hawaii. And no, I've never been there either :).

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  2. um, I don't understand why people have a problem with you making money from the blog? Don't you put a lot of time and energy and creativity into it? I'm not a blogger, but I think it's great if people can make money from it...I don't quite understand the criticisms! I come back every day because you are a good, creative, interesting writer. Sigh. People just like to knock others so they feel better about what they're not accomplishing.
    And go live in Hawaii!!! If you have kids, it'll be soooo much harder to just up and leave. Then we can live vicariously through you :)

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  3. In response to #3, those Negative Nancy's out there can shove it! I learned so much from you with my blog consult. I loved every second of it and felt like you taught me so much. Keep doing what you are doing girlie!!! Don't pay attention to the naysayers. You rock, are inspiring, have an awesome, thriving business and quite the way with (funny) words. I love your blog and everything you are doing.

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    2. Remind me to mail you a check for what you just said ;) You are too kind and I had so much fun getting to know you on a more personal level. HOWEVER. Your blog success is all you lady...proud of the work you are doing on your own space. Can't wait to watch it continue to grow. You rock. End of story.

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  4. I love your attitude about #3. You know you've made it when the haters come out, so huzzah! Keep doing what you're doing!
    XO, Rachel
    With Love, Rachel

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  5. Bravo for you, girl. Look up and stay positive. Haters gonna hate.
    That is actually something I've been realizing. People are going to be, well, people and you are going to be you. And that is OKAY :)
    Blessings,
    Jacy
    artbyjacy.com

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  6. I can help you with #1! I emailed you, then answered my own question, so forget it!
    As for #3? Brush your shoulders off. There is always a reason for why people feel compelled to say negative things and it's almost always within THEM. If it's working for you, keep at it. ;)

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  7. I am a fairly new reader, and I LOVE your blog!
    As for #3, I've always said, feel important when they are taking time out of their day to talk about you!!

    Keep doing what you're doing Erin!!

    undertheoaktreeblog.com

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  8. Do I need to start a blog news blog? "LIY Speaks Out against Blogaters" (blog haters) or "LIY Picks 3, Mails 300 boxes of Noodles"

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  9. So, one of my best friends and her fiance just left everything and moved to Hawaii, "just for a couple years" to live the life before they got married and settled down in Illinois. Everyone thought they were crazy. But within like, a week, they had bought a freakin coffee farm and are going to be Hawaiian coffee farmers for the rest of their lives. Here's their website to prove that it CAN BE DONE!!! http://www.sunshowercoffee.com/blog/

    p.s. is that your home gym??? so jealous...

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  10. I can totally relate to you in #2 (in life, not necessarily blogging). It took me a really long time to realize that I can't physically do everything I'd like to do in one day. It was a hard lesson to learn that when I said 'yes' to something I'd usually have to say 'no' to something else. Sounds intuitive, though, doesn't it?! Anyway, I love your blog and I'm sure you're making the right decisions for YOU, and that's all that matters!

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  11. You are seriously amazing girl. No one else I would want to do #whynotwednesday with. ;) I may need your consultation services soon and do some skype advice chats :)

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  12. I refrain from entering your mac-n-cheese contest because 1) I thought all of the items were super-adorable on your super-fab self; 2) I'm allergic to dairy and can't have cheese; and 3) I'd save you the time, money, and hassle of sending me a box of noodles and cheese that I cannot consume. Instead, I'm sending you a big ol' virtual hug 'round the neck.

    Blessings,
    Nicole

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  13. I advise you move to Hawaii if you really want to. I moved to California b/c I really wanted to and now 7 years later I am thrilled with my decision. DO IT!

    xoxo
    Mags
    http://magsmind22.blogspot.com

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  14. my recent realizations are more along the lands that i live in lala land. not like i'm loopy and a airhead. just i live in some fantasy land. thinking about learning how to connect to reality. might make that a goal. on april 1. April fools....gotcha! ok i'll stop now!

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  15. What are you doing in Arizona? Visiting me?! ;)

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  16. Ummmm ARIZONA?! I just wanted to remind you that Elevate is in May and I am counting down the days until I get to see your cute face! It's probably best if you just prepare for me to be awkward around you now and understand that I love your guts and am just super excited :) p.s I will personally B out the haters that are mean to you. Haters gonna hate and they are just jelly of your fabulosity! love you to pieces!

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  17. happy to see you try out passionfruit, you deserve a break! always, always stay above the haters ways....they suck, you don't. hang yourself a picture of Hawaii about 5 feet in front of the treadmill, that'll keep you running until you get there!! said with much love friend!

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  18. As a Hawaiian resident, you should totally move here! I'm heartbroken we will be moving for my husband's job and I'm just counting down the time until we move back.

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  19. You're awesome! Poo on those negative nelly's!

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  20. there will always be pos and negs in whatever you do. you can't please anyone. but one thing i feel for sure is that Erin, you're genuine. there are lots of people who blog and leave sweet comments to gain followers. but i think you can always know when people say/do something because they mean it, or because they want something in return. and you're genuine. i think i've said that. but i'll say it again anyway.

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  21. On the subject of blog negativity, I would have to think that those who are negative and are rude about the money part must be jealous? I think anyone that can look at a Blogger that is successful and has found a way to monetize said blog should taking notes. You are smart, successful, and come up with great ideas that people are fighting to be involved in. That is amazing!

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  22. I was debating between Hawaii and Vegas to such a point we looked up jobs, rent, etc but lol husbands a realist and I live in fantasy land so not in the cards right now but thats ok!! :) you go so I can live vicariously through you! Thanks! Lol

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  23. Haters gonna hate... brush your shoulders off young lady && realize that you do have followers out there who enjoy your blog for what it is :) As for Hawaii if hubby is in... you'd be crazy not to! <3

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  24. people make me mad with their negative attitude. honestly, it's probably jealousy. keep doing you, Erin. you are clearly a rockstar. flaky or not.

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  25. ahh it is hard to do it all. i can only imagine how you handle it all by yourself while also working a full time job! just do what works for you girl :)
    -- jackiejade.blogspot.com

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  26. I will never understand why people waste so much time being nasty! I think you are all kinds of awesome and I enjoy your blog! It brings a little bit of happiness my way each day. I'll be showing my support by sponsoring you soon! xoxo

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  27. Erin.....regarding #3 most people are prob not behind you on this because they wish they were as successful as you. Humankind can be such a tricky thing instead of celebrating another persons success we sometimes only see a fault! Carry on my friend with what you are doing.....you are successful! I recently attended a leadership training thru work.....we read a John Maxwell book...amazing book....you have those natural leadership qualities....go with it....success is all you will see!

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  28. all i can say is that haters gonna hate. ;)

    p.s. when Ryan and I were in Hawaii in December, we thought about possibly moving there. I mean, why the heck not?!

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  29. I guessed all the right things so that means only one thing...cheese, please. But I also live in Hawaii, so forget the boxed noodles and book your flight and we'll call it even! Mmmmk?

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  30. I'm excited about you using Passionfruit, that way when I lose track of how many times I want to change my ad colors due to my blog identity crisis, I won't have to be "that girl." ;) But seriously, people read your blog because of your content. You are so funny, true to yourself and aren't afraid to show off your roots (by the way, I posted those pics on my blog post today like I said I would...enjoy!) There will always be negativity...people are jealous, prideful, and sometimes just suck at life. Don't let it steal your joy...just don't go move to Hawaii or you might turn us all into that person I just described (just kiddin...GO!) And as someone who has participated in one of your google hangout consultations, it's obvious that you want to share what's worked for you and help people find and share their blogging voice. No shame in charging for that. Your time is valuable, you can't give everything away for free or other areas of your life will suffer. Thanks for being you!

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  31. Hawaii is nice... but not the best place to live. More of a better place to visit! But some people like it a lot. (And yes, we lived there for 2.5 years!)

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  32. #4 - if you move...I will move with you! ha! I am dying to move out of MN to somewhere warm and tropical and anything but MN feeling....

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  33. I don't understand how someone could say your consultations are self-serving. That makes zero sense. You are providing a service. A service that is in demand. A service I wish more well known bloggers would provide. I took part in one of your consultations and it provided me valuable information that would have taken me weeks to figure out on my own. I've learned in life, the ones that criticize are the ones that are either intimidated, insecure, or jealous. Sometimes all the above. Keep doing what your doing. You are good at it. And I can't wait for our next consult in May!
    Cheers,
    Cortne
    cocoinmagnolia.com

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  34. Darn, I was nowhere near close- C'mon man, I want some Mac&Cheese!! But seriously now that I`ve read that, I kinda DO want some. I`ve been making an intense version with sauteed mushrooms, onion, sausage and dried chili- mixed with a box of KD- its AMAZING!

    Some Snapshots Blog
    Jess

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  35. Haters gonna hate. Trolls are gonna troll. It sucks to see see and read negative stuff about yourself, but you have to keep doing what's right for you. Jealously is an ugly and gross thing. Blogging is so rewarding but can knock you flat on your arse at the same time. Keep your chin up, kitty cat!!

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  36. My comment on #3 is that I'm sad I haven't gotten up on one of those yet. I think it would be fun to just chat and learn a little from other bloggers. Too bad others want to miss out! x

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  37. Don't let the negative people get to you. You'll find many people jealous of you because you have one of the "it" blogs and are one of the "it" girls in the blog world. But if you do have to run and escape, Hawaii would be the place to do it :)

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  38. As per #3... I have seen different comments as I'm sure you have floating around. I figure once they have half the success with their blog as you have with yours then they can start giving you advice. One thing I've noticed the more traffic I get with my blog the more people want to tell me exactly what I should and should not be doing with my blog. I think people just like to be bossy is all it is. I love you and you are one of the best blog strategizers I know so don't even worry about those folks.

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  39. My childhood neighbor packed up her family and moved to Hawaii several years ago. She loves it. Might as well go for it!!

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  40. Girl you are rockin' it!! AND if you're going to move somewhere spontaneous, I put my vote in for Nashvegas. COOMMEEE ON!!!!!! (I mean your best friend lives here, Luke Bryan roams the streets, and the market is hot hot hot... and I know how you like your real estate...) Keep doin' what you're doing. Even Jesus had haters ;)

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  41. 1. no one can do it all...it will make you so unhappy. even though i don't know you in real life. you seem like a really happy person. do what you can. there is always tomorrow.

    2.you can't please everyone. there are going to be haters. sometimes it is hard for some people to sit back and watch your success. i say keep doing what you are doing. you make me laugh. in a world that is full of negativity, laughing is a good thing.

    3. hawaii is beautiful to visit. however, my friend moved there a few months ago. she has seen bugs that look like prehistoric creatures. they are so big. and scorpians are the worst. she said that it is a constant battle. she is a very clean person. so, if you don't mind huge ugly bugs and scorpians. i say aloha.

    4. with all that being said. i hope you have a happy easter. xoxo

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  42. That's crazy! Where are these forums? I mean, I guess I really don't want to know, I really wouldn't want to read them. But let it slide and do what you do. Sounds like you're doing alright for yourself, so you're good!

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  43. Who cares if you make money off your blog and your "services"? People need to stop being jealous haters. If they were cool enough, they would do it too.

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  44. You know the saying, haters gon' hate! Granted everyone is entitled to their opinion but I think bashing someone on a forum is BS. "Make yo money boo-boo!" Also, I'm all for Hawaii. I'm actually afraid that if I ever visit I won't come back. Lately I've been realizing that it's ok that I slack on my blog roll and mostly hit "mark as read". Sometimes I just can't read everything.

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  45. I think you and this blog are great! Never let anyone make you feel differently. People can feel differently regarding the decisions for their blogs but that doesn't make you or your decisions wrong. Got to go with your heart sweet girl! Keep rocking your socks!! :) XOXO

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  46. I'm sure I missed this address deadline - however I think it is WONDERFUL that you are mailing out boxes of mac and cheese. And I don't even really understand why. PS I hope you stop looking at the negative side of things soon, you don't deserve that in life. Keep smiling and dream of Hawaii :)

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I read and appreciate every one of your comments. Thanks for stopping by my space and sharing a piece of yourself on this huge ole internet. I meant that in the least creepy way possible. I'm just good at making everything awkward. Anyhow, thank you for your comments. They make me smile :)